In life, there are things we can control, things we can influence, and things that are completely beyond our control.
Understanding and accepting this can help reduce stress and mental fatigue, and empower you to focus your energy where it matters most.
Whenever something challenging happens, try to visualise your own circle of control and influence. These concepts come from Stephen Covey’s 1989 book ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People’.
During cancer treatment and recovery, you may want clear answers and set plans, but some things are simply beyond your control. You cannot control treatment outcomes, what’s going to happen in 3, 6 or 12 months’ time, or the feelings and opinions of others around you.
So what’s in your circle of control and influence?
- You choose what you put into your body: You can make nutritious food choices that support your health and wellbeing.
- You choose the people you spend time with: Surround yourself with supportive and uplifting people.
- You choose how you advocate for yourself: Speak up for your needs and preferences for healthcare decisions.
- You choose to make informed decisions: Educate yourself about your condition and treatment choices.
- You choose to minimise exposure to things that mentally fatigue you: Set boundaries, say no to extra responsibilities, and avoid Dr Google.
- You choose how you respond to challenges and setbacks: Lean on your family, friends and support network on the difficult days, and then seek their help to move forward and seek new solutions.
When you channel your energy and focus into what you can control and influence, while accepting the things you cannot change, you take proactive steps to managing mental fatigue during your cancer journey.
Want to learn more about how to stay in the present moment and focus on what you can control? Consider joining us for Mindfulness Meditation or Living and Thriving Mindfully.
